Family – Friend or Foe ?

Greetings,

This is a very sad topic but definitely not one unheard of which affects way too many People if you ask us…

Take into account the lead-poisoned boomers of today and modern media telling People about that Stuff…

Result: an actual revolution of children of emotionally disturbed parents standing up to their crazy and dangerous oppressors !

Not only do i speak from personal experience, I have studied Family dynamics for more than 20 years and will lay out crucial Information regarding the whole scapegoating thing
( which has been done in old times already; bible ; but is at an all time high it seems )

My personal scapegoating story goes back to Elementary with one of my classmates pointing it out which is insane considering that boys that age have way different things on their mind than noticing insane or at least very weird behaviour which was displayed by my mother and to an extend my whole family resulting in decades of gaslighting, manipulation, slander and generally: horrible treatment that was not only completely undeserved, it was extremely evil considering i was a very well behaved child and teenager not even allowing myself to have some typical, normal, natural teen drama Stuff = the perfect scapegoat

It’s really always the good child gettin emotionally and somethimes physically beaten up by their freakin whole family which is just beyond evil

Considering how these evil family members are very often also very crazy as in mentally disturbed as in: needs to be locked up for the safety of others and themselves… ( like most of my “family” members )
-> then you will find yourself in a situation that is not just bad, annoying, cruel, Life destroying… You are in actual danger which i can 100% attest to and so many others who had to live through such a hell

It’s absolutely mind boggling how People in general or your very own “Family” can be so absolutely evil, despicable, insane meat bags that frankly don’t even deserve to be alive anymore after being that cruel towards a completely innocent, well behaved child.

It’s also absolutely mind boggling how they haven’t off-ed themselves at some point but we have actually written about that delusional, psychotic stuff so to make it short:

-> they begin ( roughly during their childhood ) to flip EVERYTHING around / upside down meaning the good person becomes the bad person in their sick head and they become the good person.
( you can notice a strong shell shock expression on their faces during that period because they completely distance themselves from their true selfs, while projecting it all onto you and to top it off they will act like all your good character traits apply to them so they just: flip the script completely )

But we ( and at a certain point again ) them know that Day is not Night and Black is not White so they fall into a deep, hateful, bitter state of narcissism which will make them even more dangerous because at that point they will go through all kinds of crazy lengths to spread lies about you and portray themselves as the victim.

It’s an absolutely insane, sickening behaviour which these monsters will never admit to and insists on gaslighting you no matter what it takes because it becomes their whole life and since they are in so deep and have become such an evil meat bag they will need “narc supply” ( a kind of high they get by commiting evil things to feel alive again since they are completely checked out and dead inside )

My mother ( overt narc ) and father ( covert narc ) have both been insanely unfair during my upbringing and treated me like im a piece of shit even though im the complete opposite and they are total pieces of shit
( it was so bizarre and i was so confused about that as a child / teenager but that is by design )

Take into account that they did it as a group ( group gaslighting ) and basically to a child:

-no words /speaks for itself

My parents and siblings are some of the most insane, evil scumbags i unfortunately had to live with and i honestly just wish Cancer and their evil, crazy asses and if you have a similar or basically the same situation i strongly advice you to look into this whole mess of a situation and if possible cut contact completely.
( reddits /raisedbynarcissists is an awesome way to get great insights on the whole Ting )

Heads up: It will take years to work through this Fukk-Shit but is very worth it and grants you all the clearly, absolution and freedom you need for moving on from this very terrible upbringing.

If you stay in denial about that it will only lead to an ever lasting burnout rendering your Life very debuffed meaning: it will subconsiously drag you down so much you will end up homeless like so many poor children of narcissistic parents because they would or could not work through this critical stuff that is way more important then having a flat screen and your Sub-Psycho AND body will tell you that forcefully by “stopping your Life” so you will deal with it… so basically: you have no choice but to really work through this topic and be 100% honest about things with going over EVERYTHING and becoming sure about EVERYTHING and moving on COMPLETELY

Silver Lining: Free Psychology Major ( yeah great; where is all me years -.- )

It will most likely leave you very bitter and understandably angry… of course…

But once you are past that and REALLY have done your work then you will be free and feel MUCH better and thus much more able to do projects and basically:

Have a good Life ( a Life again; maybe for the first time ) which just wont be possible without “doing the work” )

Again: It is worth it and i have successfully done it 🙂
( my family is dead to me and hopefully soon actually dead; best of C ) <- Strong Indicator having made it; not ! the opposite

Last note: Don’t get fooled by people not having the means ( brains ) or energy to handle that and thus try to convince ( ironically gaslight you ) that you are still not out of the famous “fog” or that you still don’t have fully dealt with your understandable anger, which is complete bs and you can rate that yourself and if you can’t rate that yourself THEN you are still somewhat working on the whole Ting or generally on Life.

Last-Last Note: Don’t just take revenge but cut contact ( if possible ), work through this stuff and realize that your parents / family is just very insane and very evil and that they will never change and that u SHOULD hope this scum dies of Cancer

Sara Byte